[March 6, 2025] Learning how to live a good life, at its core, means adopting all the responsibility you can bear. Dewayne Noel of the Dry Creek Wrangler School has an interesting take on this idea, and I’d like to highlight his ideas. Here are 5 habits to become a strong man.
Dewayne sits in an old metal chair at the entrance to his country barn, smoking a cigar (that he talks about), dressed in jeans and wearing a cowboy hat. He talks slowly while giving us a long-ago proven set of wisdom tidbits. He talks about what really matters. So, sit back, relax, and read about those habits that can make you a good man.
Dewayne discusses the unfortunate fact that so many young men are lost because they’ve been sold a bill of goods and they haven’t been prepared for life. These young men are starting to wake up and many have been asking Dewayne for some advice. Here are 5 habits young men can adopt in their lives to become the men that they need to be and the world needs them to be.
- Be a Good Man (care for others): Many people don’t know what it means to be a good man, especially in the deeply religious world (admits he’s kicking over a hornet’s nest). The absence of evil is not an automatic indication of good. You might say, you don’t steal, abuse women, don’t do drugs, and I don’t do this or that. They do away with all the negatives, but they don’t do anything positive. These men are a big zero. Being good is proactive. It’s just about caring about people. In your life, be an agent for good. This is a lifetime of study and work.
- Be a Dangerous Man (protect the family): Being dangerous is not being a threat. These are two different things. It’s not about going out and lifting weights and getting a bunch of tattoos and wearing leather jackets and walking around with your chest and shoulders up, hulking around saying I’m dangerous. That’s rarely a dangerous man. Usually, it’s the quietest man in the room who is most dangerous. To tie this to the first point, you can’t be a good man without being a dangerous man. Being good to people sometimes means protecting those people. This is where Dewayne discusses Dr. Jordan Peterson and that Peterson says this better. If you can’t protect your family, then you don’t have a right to have a family.
- Be Educated (read and experience): Start reading and listening to people like Jocko Willit and Jordan Peterson, and start learning. The brain is a muscle and like any muscle, the more you work it, the stronger it becomes. Get educated. That doesn’t mean going to college (which is okay). Learn to do things. Learn what’s going on around you. Go through life learning something new.
- Be Calm (walk away from the noise): Dewayne talks about how he didn’t always appear calm. Life is a journey. He admits to being hot-headed when younger because he didn’t know any better. There were lots of things outside his family causing tremendous amounts of stress, and he was bringing it home, and he was not calm. Get rid of those things that don’t allow you to be calm. Turn off the television. Drop people who are a constant source of conflict and melodrama, who are always stirring the pot. Walk away. Guard your calmness. Find things that will make you calm. When the inevitable conflict arises, go into it calm. If you’re calm, you’re thinking, you’re logical, you’re level-headed. When you get mad, all logic and reason go out the window.
- Be Wise (apply what you know): Wisdom is a lifetime of study, and it’s not what you know; it’s knowing how to apply what you know. You don’t have to tell people everything you know. Be that quiet man in the corner. If you have something to say that’s good, beneficial, helpful, or proper at the right time, then say it. Talking all the time about everything to everyone that’s not an indication of the wise.
Being a good man is a journey. Start where you are today, and you might say, “I wish I was that kind of man right there.” It might be a long journey to get to that man, but start, work at it all the time, and make sacrifices.
If you don’t have a destination, how do you know when you’ve arrived? And how do you know how to get there if you don’t know where you’re going? Sit down and figure out what kind of man I want to be. Then, begin the journey.
This country and the people around you need good men, good, effective men. We have enough neutrals. Be the strong man that leaves a hole when you leave this world.
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“Be a good man.” Well, that says it all. Be a good man is much more than ‘hopping’ to be good but taking those specific actions that Dewayne lays out here. But, for those fortunate enough to have read Gen. Satterfield’s book “55 Rules for a Good Life,” you’ll already be familiar with the wisdom of Dewayne. What I like about this most is Dewayne’s laidback style. Good contrast. Be a good man.
Wow, nice list from Dewayne. I’m a new fan of his social media. I get to hear his talks on YouTube.
4. Be calm, and be ready to walk away. This is one of Dewayne’s “habits” that is one of the more difficult in our current society; especially America where we encourage hedonism and to value the worthlessness of the Hollywood wannabes. We are spoiled brats looking for another fix of our drug-addled culture. I see young men beginning to come around and that is good news for us all because all nations need strong men. We not need, nor want weak, effete men who are scared of everything and weep at the loss of their teddy bear. Let’s learn to build up our young men, to make them capable of pushing evil back into its box and to save us when necessary.
You Ken, like me, are of the old days when men were men and women were women. The new young men have been trashed long enough. It is now time for them to take their place to lead our nation. Beta males need not apply.
I love this man – a real man who is dangerous but disciplined.