[December 12, 2022] Men see women as perfection for the feminine ideal.
We read this in the Tom Sawyer story. Tom Sawyer is about 12 years old and still hangs out with his friends like Huck Finn. And at one point, a girl moves across the street; her name is Becky. She comes outside, and Tom Sawyer is struck by her, and for the first time in his life, something has changed in him. The next thing he does is hop up on a picket fence to show off and balance in front of her to attract her attention.
Tom Sawyer is experiencing motivation for the female form. Modern women don’t understand this about men. Women don’t understand that, at least to the degree that males are uncorrupted and not bitter from being rejected by women; they’re doing everything they can to kneel before the eternal image of the feminine to try to make themselves worthy.
This attraction to the feminine is the chivalry story of old. Modern women should encourage this in their male partners. On the one hand, the feminine form is a promise (to be with a perfect woman) and, on the other hand, a threat (of rejection by that perfection). Women have no idea how paralyzing this is to men, especially young men.
Many Soldiers I’ve spoken to over the decades are absolutely terrified of women. Yes, those tough, experienced combat Soldiers fear being near women for the simple reason they fear rejection. Paradoxically, that fear is directly proportional to that man’s attraction to that woman. This is why, so often, men make fools of themselves around women, in particular, beautiful women.
These men don’t actually “see” the women they are attracted to because they see her as a judgmental ideal. Only after establishing a relationship with that woman can they differentiate between this judgmental ideal and the actual individual woman. Men who are reading this can understand what I mean.
What is more interesting is that as men get to know a particular woman, there is a sacrifice of the ideal perfection. They cannot have an ideal woman. And that is both a relief and a disappointment.
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Gen. Satterfield makes several great points here. If you are a young man, then you had best get this idea in your head now so you will not be so disappointed later in life like I was. I thought I was somehow radioactive and off limits to women. Then I learned that I had to turn myself into something they might actually want to date (and maybe marry).
Never thought of it this way.
Very good! I never saw men that way before.
This article is the reason I keep coming back to this blog by Gen. Satterfield. Every one of them make me think and ask the question, how can I get better. This one is a different perspective on being a man. I like it and Gen. S is, as always, DA MAN.
Wow, this article is eye-opening.
“The Adventures of Tom Sawyer” now that is a great book.
Here is the most important paragraph of the article by Gen. Satterfield and profound:
“What is more interesting is that as men get to know a particular woman, there is a sacrifice of the ideal perfection. They cannot have an ideal woman. And that is both a relief and a disappointment.”
Nailed it, Mikka. Powerful statement.
Outstanding thinking by Gen. S.
… just another reason to read this blog daily. And to get a copy of his books. ✔
Wow, excellent article today, Gen. S. !!! Keep it up. And let me be the first to wish you and your family an advanced Merry Christmas.
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Thanks McStompie. Appreciate the link.
The reality for men is that they have to move beyond the ideal they have for women. I guess the real question I have to ask is why do men have this ideal to begin with. Now who can answer that?
Gen. Satterfield, very good!!!!!! You wrote something that was pinging around in my brain for a long time and never could put it into words. This makes perfect sense. Men see women as the ideal perfection of a woman but has to eventually realize the “real” woman and come to terms with it. Your article on marriage makes a perfect compliment to this one. I suggest others go back and read it too.
Yusaf, I agree. Here is the link to that article. And it was one of his best.
https://www.theleadermaker.com/secret-to-a-successful-marriage/
Exceptional leadership blog. Gen. Satterfield continues to do us a big favor by posting every day (well, except when he was in the hospital). I would hope that readers of his blog take a few moments to make a comment here and tell us what their thoughts are about his topic of the day. Or about his Daily Favorites. Of course, we all know that Gen. Satterfield is a huge free speech advocate and many people are book burners par excellence. Gen. S. keep up the great works you are doing. Your fans know that your are the best.
LM, it was indeed.
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I always liked the Tom Sawyer story, thanks General Satterfield for working that into your article. In fact, I have my original book at home sitting on my library shelf. 😎
Christmas is nearly here. Get a copy of both of Gen. Satterfield’s books. Do yourself and your family a favor.
“55 Rules for a Good Life”
“Our Longest Year in Iraq”
Order them both. It will be one of the best decisions you made this year. Oh, of course you need to read them too.
Liz, good advice.
I really liked this article.
Yep, says a lot about things I always thought about but never could jell as an idea in my head or figure out a way to articulate it.
I agree and that is just another reason I love this leadership website by Gen. Satterfield and received his new book and read it. Get your copy today. “55 Rules for a Good Life.”
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